10 Vital Questions to Ask before you Tie-the-Knot
Right, so here is the scenario: Boy meets Girl, Boy and Girl fall head over heels in love, Boy bends on one knee and pops the Big Question, Girl says YES! Congrats! However, do you really know him, do you want the same things out of life, will he take care of you in sickness and in health, does he want children, how many, where do you see yourself in 10 years, where does he see himself….these are questions a couple about to get married should talk about before actually going through with it! So, before you start planning the event of the year with the help from Galu Seaside, take some time and ask these 10 basic questions:
Boy, do you want children?
This is probably the biggest question of all because there is no middle answer, you either do or don’t. If the answer is YES, then how many kids is the follow up question? Will the Girl turn into a rabbit and give birth…like constantly? Do the Boy and Girl agree? Don’t they? Would they consider adoption?
Boy, will we have a joint account?
Managing the financials is also a big issue within a marriage. How much debt do you each have? Do you plan on sharing an account? Does each partner have a separate account? All these little details are quite important as believe it or not, many couples end up breaking up because of money. Plan ahead and decide to spend the rest of your life with a person you share the same plans with.
Boy, where would you like us to live?
Do you want to live in a house or flat? Do you prefer living in the centre of the city or the countryside? Do you want to move to another country or stay home? Where the Boy and Girl expect or envision living may be different. How can a marriage work if you cannot decide on where to live after you are married?
Boy, will you always show me how much you love me?
Some Boys prefer using words while others rely on gestures to show their feelings. Does the Girl recognise these as signs of love? Does she need more from the Boy? Can the Girl compromise? Does she want flowers and a candlelit dinner like on a weekly basis (too extreme) or is she fine with birthdays and anniversaries? All these minor issues need to be talked out so as to avoid unnecessary problems.
Boy, when you are in a bad mood what do I do?
All of us have bad moods and bad days…but the way we handle ourselves differs. Some need time and space to relax or think while others want to talk about what’s bothering them. So, what does the Girl do on such days?
Boy, are you religious?
Religion sometimes plays a great role in the happiness of a married couple. If religion is a major part of the Girl’s life, then the Girl should talk to the Boy about what religion their children will follow, how they will celebrate religious holidays like Christmas and Easter, will they go to church every Sunday?
Boy, what about our families?
The Boy may not stand the in-laws and vice versa. So the question about to what extent the in-laws will interfere in the couple’s life remains. Will they visit the in-laws on Sundays? Will the grand-ma look after their kids while the Boy and Girl work? Will they be active in their daily lives or lead separate lives?
Boy, will you take care of me when I get sick?
During the ceremony the Boy and Girl vow to take care of each other in good and bad times, in sickness and in health. However, some people obviously don’t have the courage and strength to do so when hard times strike!
Boy, how or where do you see yourself in 10 years?
Where each individual sees themselves is a private matter. Once joint by marriage the ideal scenario is the Boy and Girl have the same visions, dreams and plans for the future. Is having a career top of your list while your partner is raising children? Does one’s vision fit in the other’s plans? Do you share the same dreams and goals?
Boy, what would you wish for if you were granted one wish?
A person’s answer to this question reveals a whole lot about his/her character and intentions. If you cannot see yourself in his/her picture then reconsider spending the rest of your life with them!
Tying the knot is a huge deal and a life-turning point in every individual’s life. Vowing to share a life with someone, during the good and bad, should not be taken lightly. All Boys and Girls should talk about the little questions, wants and plans they have in mind, just to make sure they share the same path